40 over 40 Photo Shoot with Sarah Adesuyan
40 Over 40
Q: What’s the absolutely best thing about being your age?
That I do not have to answer to anyone, I have reached this stage in my life where I know and love what I want. If there are injustices, I will call them as I see them. I am a snob and not afraid to say that I am. I have gone through enough to say otherwise.
Q: Do you define beauty differently now than you did twenty years ago? If so, how?
Oh yeah, as beauty comes in different forms, not just in personal looks, I see beauty in other men and women, how they are they express themselves, dress, hair, shoes, how they deal with a situation. It’s on many levels.
Q: Why is a session like this important to you?
This is a unique opportunity for me to showcase who I am. I am a British Nigerian who has made the decision with my Maltese partner (met in London) to make a new life on this island. This session shows that there many women on all levels that make up this island. I wish to share and include the diversity of this island. We come from various life experiences and backgrounds. We can learn from each other Common theme, I believe is that we are women and we have something to contribute.
Q: Have your values changed over time? What do you value now?
Yes, my values have changed due to life experiences and as you get older. I value my happiness more than ever and life.
Q: What have been the significant points of change in your life so far? – How did these significant points in your life change you?
My divorce was painful but significant. I was not happy for a long time, and I felt I was going through the motions of all. The separation, the divorce despite being very painful, name shaming, finger-pointing, not seeing friends and family for half a year showed I had the resilience and true faith in God. I am a spiritual person, I believe in God, and during those dark times, I trusted and believed that I would have better and happier times to come by God’s Grace. My faith in God has increased; I am not a bible basher, but I am a much humbler person; I do not judge, I see the positive in most things, I am still a very pragmatic person, but God knows this!!!
I had an operation back in 2019 – Open Abdominal myomectomy to remove up to 30 fibroids from my womb, – its important to listen to your body, and try and get some balance, within it. I am not perfect, I do believe that the fibroids over a number of years have or may have affected chances of me having children, but I have my life back, and happiness, that’s all.
40 Over 40
Q: What was/is your career? Or job path?
I have been in the Hospitality industry since I was 18 years. After graduating from University back in 1997, recently moving to Malta permanently in Jan 2020, my work and career have gone in a different path, which I truly excited about.
Q: What is the one piece of advice would you give your 20 years old self?
Travel, more see the world, do not get bogged down with useless men that thought you could be someone with. You are No 1 at all times!
Q: If you had a bucket list, what’s your favourite thing you’ve checked off?
Visiting the Taj Mahal.
Q: What gets you up in the morning? What are your motivations?
A part of me knowing I have my devoted partner next to me, who has helped and guided me, this last seven years. To be honest, we needed each other.
Q: When in your life, so far, have you felt most confident and why?
When my Decree Nisi ( Divorce papers ) came through – painful process, and I was free.
Q: It would be really interesting to hear about any ambitions you have for the future?
Ambitions for the future – is to enjoy what I have now every day, with Covid 19 right now, things are not as they seem, I wish to travel and visit India again, I would love to see my family more, especially my dad in Nigeria.
40 Over 40
Q: How do you think your generation is perceived by other generations?
Some too old, but others when they know me can not believe how young at heart I am and look!
Q: Are there any myths you would like to bust about the over 40s/50s/60s/70s? If so, can you tell us about them?
Age is a number! what counts is your brain, keeping you sharp and focused everyday. We are not dead in fact we are very much alive and well, and can show those under 40’s a thing or two. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it’s all around you. What counts is inside, and your response to life and people.
Q: Do you think that people who are 40+/ 50+/60+/70+ are represented in advertising? How do you feel about it?
Not as much, only when it come to medical and health care. It would be good to see people in photo shoots, catalogues, models, billboards.
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